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9/11 Evolved

 

 

September 5, 2016

Dear United States of America,

I write this as an offering to reconsider how We remember 9/11.

This wretched, “9/11 tradition” of assaulting Us by rehashing the events that brought Us terrible sadness does NOT allow Us to move forward in pride as a nation, as communities, as neighbors, as families.

It makes no emotionally-intelligent sense to continue to horrifically mourn the deceased for over a decade when We can honor each individual who perished on that day by celebrating their special gifts and contributions to their families and communities.

The attack on Our senses of non-stop, repeated footage of dreadful events is a tactic that keeps people docile with fear and loathing.

  • Instead of tuning into non-stop-replays of The Towers coming down all day long and replayed over and over again on what passes for news TV;
  • Instead of bombarding every channel with reading the names of the deceased for hours;
  • Instead of tuning into h8te-mongers at pulpits inciting anti-love tactics in the name of their all-might-money-gods;
  • Instead of staring at your brown-skinned and Muslim neighbors with suspicion; let Us consider evolving Our consciousness towards being a Better America;
  • Instead of participating in ghoulish practices that bring an entire country’s vibration down, wouldn’t you much prefer to hear:

♥ about the wonderful ways that the victims inspired people?

♥ about the foundations and good works done in their names?

♥ how their memories are now supporting Our Better Lives?

Wouldn’t you feel inspired to be an American by knowing how Our communities have grown stronger and moved forward from tragedy instead of being bombarded by what is actually whining – not remembrance, and certainly not honor for the deceased?

Every “religious” tradition has wisdom that serves for Us to live Better Lives.  Judaism offers the tradition of sitting shiva, which refers to “a seven-day period of formalized mourning by the immediate family of the deceased.”

“The psychological brilliance of Judaism is nowhere more apparent than in its carefully ritualized structure for dealing with grief. The open expression of sorrow is permitted, even encouraged.  Yet, beginning with the family’s arrival at their home after burial, a process is set into motion that leads the bereaved gently but firmly back to life and the world of the living. The first stage in this gradual process of healing is called shiva.” – ReformJudaism.org

Note:  Coincidence? Shiva, “The Auspicious One,” is the Hindu deity who is “the Creator, the Preserver, the Transformer, and the Destroyer.”  In spiritual traditions, Shiva embodies The Cycle of Life.  Interesting…

It’s time to create a New 9/11 Tradition of honor and pride.

We have the opportunity to build Better Communities by Being Better Neighbors.  We have the opportunity to learn about Our differences – like how We pray – to strengthen Our similarities – like how We love Our children.

Let Us start by taking the time to honor and remember what makes this country great and turn the annual 9/11 debacle into a Day of Inspiration.  We don’t need constant reminders of the horror; We need reminders of Our Greatness as a country made up of many different cultures, peoples, beliefs, and ways to love to be encouraged to be an even Better America.  We need these reminders because We are bombarded on a daily basis with the most negative news and awful behaviors of people at their worst and little to no time is spent celebrating Us at Our Best.

We can change this NOW, this 9/11 and every one thereafter, by choosing:

  • NOT to watch TV that day. (The same goes for turning your attention to gruesome news websites.)  You don’t need to see those Towers fall ever again.  If enough people tune out, media companies will feel the loss of advertising profits and attend to Our interests for a change;
  • To organize and/or attend a community building event. How fortunate We are to live in the internet age and have socializing websites like Meetup and even craigslist to find events to commune with like minds and energies;
  • To pay it forward. Do something for the future.  In his wisdom and respect, President Obama declared 9/11 as a Day of Service, which is truly the highest way to honor Our deceased.  Plant a tree; clean up a lot to create a community garden; see where there is a need in your community and show up to be a solution and contribution;
  • Learn something new. The more We know, the more We grow.  Especially if you’re a parent, take the opportunity to learn something new with your children to encourage their love of learning and sharing ideas.  A good thing to learn about would be a high-holy day in a tradition different from your own so that you may enhance tolerance in yourself and your children for a better today and tomorrow.

These are just a few suggestions that work for Me.  Please, do your thing.  The fact that you and I have as much freedom to do what We want to do as We have, already makes Us better off than the majority of the people on this planet.

Let’s not waste any more time festering in horror and being negative; let’s rise up with honor and integrity and be inspired by how We have strengthened as a nation from tragedy.

— This article’s Twin Towers painting: Original artwork by Jim Watts (2002)

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi*

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My Bitchy Times (Why I Gotta Be a BITCH)

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September  7, 2012

Q: Dear Mistress Didi*,

I truly enjoyed Your  Domina101™ Workshop and am looking forward to taking the next one.  I know You said that this is a process of growth and evolution, but my particular problem is causing me to lose sleep.  [PERSONAL INFO OMITTED].  Don’t You ever just want to punch these bitches?  How do You keep from having to be a bitch?  Please tell me something to help me deal with this situation!!!!  Thank You, Ms. FD

Dear Ms. FD,

Your question comes to Me at the perfect time!  Of course, I have what I call, “My Bitchy Times” and I have them on a regular basis when dealing with all of these pathetic-jealous-zealots out here who have nothing of value to offer to The Whole, so they desperately try to bring those of Us who ARE doing fabulous things down.

As I stated in the Domina101™ Workshops:

  1. Consider The Source of your aggravation
  2. Remember Your Value
  3. Find a use for the offender and its offenses – it truly helps with Forgiveness.  Remember, Forgiveness is first and foremost for yourself.

Below is a perfect example of an offensive situation that has resurfaced because a cowardly-loser dared to use Me and Mine in order to have some kind of value for her fantasy blog. So, since her actions show up in search engine results for MY Work, I MAKE USE OF her.

Do understand that I give Myself permission to have My Bitchy Times and, most importantly, to enjoy them!  I OWN My Karma significantly better than the offenders can recognize theirs.  In other words, as I also present in My Domina101™ Workshops, I do My best to carefully think before I act to ensure that I have no regrets for what I choose to do.  Self-Control is THE only real control.  I choose Who I Am and truly encourage others to spend more time working on themselves instead of attempting to disrupt My Fabulous Flow so that they can love and like themselves the way that I love and like Myself.

Notice My “Mirror” comment below.  The “h8ters” will (in typical, lazy form) jump on the “oh-how-conceited-bandwagon” while those of Us who ARE doing Our jobs to make Our lives (and the lives of others We encounter) joyous and fulfilling will recognize and revel in the Power of what I offer.

You can click here to be alerted of My Next Workshops.

Read all that I’ve provided here and in The Domina101™ Workshop Notes.  You ARE evolving for YOUR best; you ARE handling and creating your reality.  All that you are going through is just a test you give yourself to see if you are truly committed to your happiness.

I completely support you.

And, for the record, I’m not a bitch; I’m a B.I.T.C.H. = Being In Total Control of Herself (see My BITCH entry).  And I don’t care if others – especially those who do NOTHING for Me – think I’m bitchy when I’m taking care of My Domain and MySelf.

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi*

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Q: Dear Mistress Didi*,

While searching for Your Superior submissive Workshop, i found this blog entry and wanted to make You aware of it.  i hope i have been of service to You, sub g

My Dear sub g,

Thank you so much for pointing out this creature’s use of My fabulousness to draw attention to her pathetic, little blog.  I have addressed her insolence before and – as I predicted – it removed My comments from its blog.

So, since attention for My Work is being drawn to all it lacks, I do the public service of posting the original dialogue below to demonstrate the full effect of how a substandard diminishes the reputation of its “dominant.”

Following that is My most recent post with the bet I made with some of My Domina101™ Divas about what this sad creature will do next.  I will post her response, if any, just to keep a record of My skill-based, amusements in action:

UPDATE 2016: I’ve chosen to remove this example since (i) the death of this pathetic creature makes the world a better place and (ii) so that her soul may reincarnate in an acceptable form.

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The True Discipline

September 12, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

Every time i see my former Mistress with Her new sub, I am upset.  i don’t know why, since Mistress and i parted ways very well, i truly want Her to be happy, and i am now collared.  i am afraid to share my feelings with my present Domme because She may need to discipline Me and She is a hard disciplinarian.  What should i do?  Thank You, slave t

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Self-discipline is the only true discipline. You affect all there is at all times.

What happens on all levels is directly related to your perception and your choices.  Accept responsibility for them.

Think about how this concept looks in your life right now.  This is the key to creating your ideal reality.

Everything begins and ends with your Self.

Having said that, no matter what your Domme may do, the reality of this situation is that you are the one who has to change your behavior.  I believe in different strokes for different folks – literally.  Personally,  I would want My sub to come to Me with all emotional issues so that We can address them together to suit both of Our needs.  So, if you are afraid of your Domme, remember that it is your responsibility for accepting Her collar and you made the choice for this type of a D/s relationship.

So, consider carefully what the lesser of the evils will be!  Take action quickly so that your unresolved issues with your former Mistress do not compromise your happiness with your Domme.

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Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work?

 

August 7,  2011

This is an excerpt from My response to a post by the fabulous Jennifer Shelton at FemCentral.  I’ve modified it to speak directly to you.

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Semantics.  What one person calls “positive thinking” is called “mindfulness” by another person writing a book to sell.  “Positive thinking” can also be included in chanting, meditation, and so many other modalities designed to gain control over FEAR = False Experiences Appearing Real.

In My experience, Positive Thinking is actually CHOOSING empowering thoughts and actions over dis-empowering ones.  The same amount of time and energy spent on worrying about something that -could- happen can be spent on focusing on what you -want- to create and “Love Me Time” which allows you to get out of the way of achieving your goals.  The stress that people choose to “think” with determines manifestation.

The bottom line is RESPONSIBILITY and ACTION. There is no one thing that is going to be a cure-all for every person.  We are responsible for trying and adapting new things all the time and evolving along THE PROCESS OF OUR DEVELOPMENT.  This requires commitment.

And cultural perspective is thrown in there, too.  It’s not only what society tells you to want, it’s HOW you choose to want it.  For example, “positive thinking” will only work as far as the whiny-person-who-believes-she-is-entitled-to-everything-without-making-an-effort is willing NOT to whine.  In cultures that expect instant gratification and permanent healing from a pill, the idea that TOOLS such as “positive thinking,” meditation, affirmation (and everything else that is designed to RE-CONDITION your thought processes) actually require continuous exercise immediately makes people insist that the TOOLS do not work.  In reality, people are not “working the tools.”

Such laziness and lack of gratitude for all that IS available to Us to figure out how to work for Our individual needs is why We have a society of fat, lazy, slovenly individuals suing McDonald’s for the fact that they CHOOSE to eat the toxic food rather than do the work to eat healthily.

All of this relates to self-worth; do you believe you are WORTHY of what you desire?

You are not entitled to anything; you have to do the work to DESERVE everything.  You have to Work Your Magick (which IS everything that you choose to design in your life).

The Comfort Zone of “focusing on being the victim” is the perfect way for all these people to get rich writing books, etc., for and against everything that has worked throughout “herstory” to validate people staying in their comfort zones and whining about it.

It’s not that something that has been proven to work for a multitude of others “doesn’t work;” YOU aren’t working it.

Discipline is a good thing and self-discipline is the greatest of your powers.

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi*

www.PartyDomme.com

*****

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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, The Mistress Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning. The Mistress Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, The Mistress Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, The Mistress Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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