Keeping Cool With Karma

July 2, 2010

Q: Dear Mistress Didi,

I have been practicing the techniques You gave us in the Domina101™ course and I must be doing something wrong.  I can’t seem to deal with this [naughty word omitted] and I just want to beat her face in every time I see her!  I remember You teaching not to let anyone bring me down to a level [where] I won’t like my behavior the next day.  But I need help!  Thank You!
~ Miss P

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Darling Miss P,

I wrote an entry in an earlier edition of My Newsletter about Keeping Cool With Karma which addresses exactly your issue!  I have reprinted it below.  Please note that I write My advice from My perspective, owning My responsibility for My choices and actions:

DOMINA 101 TIP:  Keeping Cool With Karma.  I believe that everyone can make a mistake and I am generous with giving people opportunities to be cool in My Domain.  Again, My Motto isDon’t start none, won’t be none, so the only times that I encounter problems with people is because they forgot themselves ~ I’ll explain.

There are far too many folks pretending to be representative of the “face they show to the world” – especially in The Fetish Scene.  They lie, cheat, make up stories about Me because they feel a serious lack of value within themselves (the “Void”).  Something about Me (or you) triggers their ability for true-self-reflection and they recognize that they are not the façade that they work too hard to convince people and themselves of.  So, instead of being inspired by Me (or you), they become “ired” (angered via jealousy and recognition that they are not what they want to believe they are) by My Truth and want to punish Us for the fact that they are “less-than.”  This is an incredibly stupid and lascivious practice that ultimately gets them in trouble, causes “unpleasantries,” and leaves them deeper in “personal debt” (The recognition of how much one is lacking as a person – usually due to the practice of making lower-energy choices which inevitably lead to a spiritual-emotional-self-love Void.).  I do My best toGuide them to become inspired instead of ired,~ meaning, choose to direct the less-evolved to avoid jealousy when they can take the high road to self-love via My inspiration.

I have always graciously given people “another chance” and, unfortunately, they seldom appreciate such a gift.  I have had people look Me in My face and lie to Me to sabotage My events and projects; steal from Me; cost Me money; twist My (or others’) words around to try to cause trouble (see My Blog post regarding Mollena); accuse Me of doing the low-life things that they would do ~ anything to try to bring Me down to their sad, little levels of awareness.  You’ve noticed that I have cut certain people out of My Domain (you suddenly don’t see them mentioned in My Newsletters; you don’t see them at events with Me anymore; I no longer promote their works; etc., and I don’t speak ill of them, which would be beneath Me).  There is a VERY good reason I have removed them.  (See Outting or Protecting and Handling My Stalkers – How To Deal With A Stalker.)

I know that Karma is a magnificent thing and I always wish accelerated karma for everyone ~ Myself included.  This is why I don’t “do retaliation.  When reality catches up to offenders, that Void becomes so large that all they can see is how much they miss the Beauty of My Energies.  Those who evolve will come back ~ how they come back determines whether or not I will allow them access to My Domain ever again.  If they really believe the stupidity that led them to attempt to take advantage of My generosity, they will remain on the fringes with that Void growing ever deeper.  If they recognize that they had a “brain fart moment,” I may give them the opportunity to prove their worthiness of knowing My kindness again.  MOST important is that they offer a proper apology, which most creeps would rather die than do!

They always come back – always.  After all, I have what they want and I do just fine without them.  And I sleep peacefully at night with a clear conscience.

Forgive the offenders.   I understand that it is a lack of self-love that causes people to offend Me.  I do pity them, but just enough to make sure that I don’t do anything to actually cause damage to them.  I forgive those who have attempted to steal from Me, take advantage of My kindness, and I even forgive those who have rewritten history to somehow make Me wrong when their horrid behavior caused Me to take action to save their lives from people threatening to “eliminate” them ~ and I mean this literallyI do not have to do anything to offenders, nor would I ever cause damage to MY KARMA, when the offenders’ behaviors will balance things out just fine – I’ve seen the truth of Karma in action on many, many occasions. 

The issue is whether the offenders can forgive themselves…  One can have a lot of fun with that… and I usually do!

“To err is human; to forgive, divine” (Alexander Pope) and I truly am a Goddess incarnate…  And it takes work!

Here are some resources for Forgiveness and for keeping your Karma straight!  You will also find great benefit from My Concepts for Forgiveness.

The Forgiveness Project works at a local, national, and international level to help build a future free of conflict and violence by healing the wounds of the past.  By collecting and sharing people’s stories, and delivering outreach programs, The Forgiveness Project encourages and empowers people to explore the nature of forgiveness and alternatives to revenge.

6 Timeless Thoughts on Forgiveness from The Positivity Blog.  I recommend subscribing to this blog ~ very good stuff!

Handling Forgiving and Forgetting from LiveStrong.com

The Gift of Forgiveness with a wonderful video

Learning To Forgive – a good how-to guide

In conclusion, I have seriously contemplated the concept of loving a person in order to forgive them.  Sometimes, you just have to say, “I love you enough to forgive you and so that I don’t hurt you, I completely release you.”  That works, too.  There is no rule that says you have to keep an offender in your Domain.  There is no rule that says you have to like a person  in order to forgive them, either.  Forgiveness is for you and your self-love first and foremost.  By being the example, you lead.

Always MY Pleasure,
The Mistress Didi*

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Being a Lifestyle Dominant for Her entire life, The Mistress Didi* has explored various aspects of the BDSM and D/s Scenes including 24/7 relationships, slave ownership, Professional Domination (before it became synonymous with “hoochies with whips) and Fetish Event Planning. The Mistress Didi* has benefited from an extensive education in the functions of the human body and psyche, holds a Master’s Degree in Rehabilitation Therapy and is currently working on Her PhD. As well as being the Founder of The Fetish League, The Mistress Didi* is a Model, Speaker, Author, Fetish Facilitator, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Psychotherapist, Certified Nutritionist, Certified Aromatherapist, and a graduate of The Institute of Culinary Arts with a specialty in vegetarian cooking. In Her* quest to change the public’s negative view of Fetish to a positive understanding of Fetish as Therapeutic Art, The Mistress Didi* promotes Fetish Appreciation through Her workshops, performances, and ClassicFetish™ Events. She* believes that the goal of the Dominant-submissive relationship is self-evolution for both to grow towards becoming the best that W/we can be as individuals, to each other, and to The Whole.

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