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My Photo Shoot Preparation Techniques

Originally Written March 11, 2014; Revised December 3, 2016 This gift is what I offer to participants of My Photo Soirees to prepare and create an excellent experience and for ...
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9/11 Evolved

September 5, 2016 Dear United States of America, I write this as an offering to reconsider how We remember 9/11. This wretched, “9/11 tradition” of assaulting Us by rehashing the ...
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PAY ATTENTION! submissive Tip

July 31, 2016 This is another entry for submissives AND Dominants to utilize for BetterFetish™ in your life. I cannot stress enough how important it is to take the time ...
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How-To Tips for submissives: First Contact

February 26, 2016 This entry is for submissives AND Dominants to utilize for BetterFetish™ in your life. The following are tips for the serious submissive to make successful connections with ...
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Check In & Center of Attention

September 5, 2010 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I thought it was beyond rude that [name omitted] kept interrupting You and tried to take over while You were giving Your presentation.  ...
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My Contributions, your purpose

February 21, 2016 Note:  I choose to publish this entry to assist confused individuals who misunderstand the definition of Dominance and how it IS in real-life. Whenever you offer something ...
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Releasing The Flying Monkeys: Balancing Karma & Retribution

This post is a letter I wrote to a very special friend who, though I've not yet met in person, I have a very special place in My heart for ...
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Fakers-Shakers-Takers-Noise-Makers

April 6, 2014 Dear Mistress Didi, Thank You for the Domina101™ Workshop! I learned a lot more than I thought I would and I see that there is much I ...
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Permission or Forgiveness?

August 9, 2015 Domina101™ Tip" “It is often easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.” - Rear Admiral Grace Murray Hopper That depends on the type of ...
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The Martyr Syndrome

May, 2015 This post is in response to a letter about a situation that may “out” the parties involved, which is why I choose to omit it. They know who ...
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How Fetish Saved My Life

Dear Mistress Didi, I’ve often heard You say that Fetish saved Your life. Please tell! Domina D. Dear Domina D., The short answer is that when I accepted My True ...
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The Difference Between Fetish & Kink

April 20, 2015 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, Can you please explain the difference between Fetish and kink? Respectfully, sub5b ~~~~~~~~~ Dear sub5b, First, I qualify My Statements by owning My ...
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Beautiful Fetish, Excellence & Ego

April 10, 2015 I’m often accused of lying, being egotistical, having ulterior motives, and everything else that people who do nothing whine in attempts to belittle those of Us who ...
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10 Domina101™ Workshop Tips

February 18, 2015 I continue to receive an inundation of requests for help on topics that are covered in the Basics of what I teach in My Domina101™ Workshops, which ...
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How to Deal with Piggy Dom/mes

A Domina101™ Tip December 27, 2014 This post is in response to a few conversations regarding an incident where a Dominant made a few enemies due to her lack of ...
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The Secrets of Happy Fetish

December 10, 2014 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I am curious to know if its bad that I keep the BDSM thing strictly to the bedroom. Can you please explain how ...
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Spiritual Crap In Fetish?

NOTE: This letter was edited to protect the identity of the writer from more ridicule than usual. November 20, 2014 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, What's with all this spiritual crap?  ...
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Dealing With Disappointing People

SPECIAL Opportunites: Check out My Newsletter! November 11, 2014 Note: I receive numerous correspondence (yes, grammartically correct) about people who betray Our Trust and Friendship - especially since a person ...
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Make Rudeness Serve You

October 11, 2014 A Domina101™ Lesson In the most recent session of The Domina101™ Collective Webcam Workshop, I presented the signs of the "substandard" who fakes being submissive.  As always, ...
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Rules For Clear Communication

August 13, 2014 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I want You to know that I completely disagree with [NAME WITHHELD] and I did not feel like You were trying to tell ...
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Success With Body Care Recipes

NOTE: This letter was edited to protect identities. September 13, 2014 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, i am writing to thank You for Your Body Care Recipes.  i have been competing ...
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The “Attention Game” Fiasco

UPDATE: As I predicted to My Domina101™ Divas, 1 day after I graciously responded, this idiot not only emailed Me again with unnecessary length to vampire My time and attention, ...
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Why you Don’t & Won’t Have What you Want

UPDATED Dear Mistress Didi*, You were unfair to dismiss me...  i tried my best to serve You...  You didn't give me a chance... [Other whining without acknowledging responsibility omitted.] ‑ "pitty-me" sub I ...
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Rejection

Dear Mistress Didi*, i've done everything to make a particular Domme accept me for service and She said no.  I can't understand why and not knowing what else to do ...
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How To Move Forward & Strengthen From Crappy Relationships

Special Valentine's Day Consciousness Preparation While new INTENTIONS were made with all those resolutions, this New Year the focus is on your commitment to following through. In other words, what ...
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Boring Need For Attention With Criticism Masked As Polite Conversation

This post is a Domain Maintenance tip on calling people out on "covert behaviors" that they attempt to mask with fake pleasantries. October 30, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, Are ...
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Happy New Year Love Me Recipes 2014

see Success With Body Care Recipes Update: 1/4/14 I actually created this Mantra at 12:01 on 1/1/14, so I choose to share with you today: I am Changing FEAR to ...
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Day 7, Imani, Faith: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 7: Imani, Faith December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired ...
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Day 6, Kuumba, Creativity: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 6: Kuumba, Creativity December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired ...
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Day 5, Nia, Purpose: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 5: Nia December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired by ...
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Day 4, Ujamaa, Collective Economics: Gifts from Me for Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 4: Ujamaa, Collective Economics December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions ...
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Day 3, Ujima, Collective Work & Responsibility: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 3: Ujima, Collective Work & Responsibility December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My ...
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Day 2, Kujichagulia, Self-Determination: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 2: Kujichagulia, Self-Determination December 26, 2013 For the next 8 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired ...
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Day 1, Umoja, Unity: Gifts from Me Inspired By The Kwanzaa Tradition

Day 1: Umoja, Unity December 26, 2013 For the next 7 days, I will give you gifts (including some of My Beauty & Wellness Secrets) of My Creative Expressions inspired ...
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Feel Good & Empowered: Practice Gratitude

UPDATE 3/16/14: Video "Tapping Into Gratitude" December 4, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, ...Things are going really well for me right now, but I still have set-backs when I have ...
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Chill Out Training Technique: The Tapping Solution

October 27, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, You trained My submissive in a variety of techniques that he constantly used and began sharing with Me before his untimely death.  There ...
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Being Superior; My “How To” Process: Part 3 of 3 of “Domain Maintenance”

August 20, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I see that the idiot-stalker is still trying to harass You.  What's the deal?  You said You would tell what to do with ...
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Manipulation Tactics: Who’s Topping You? Part 2 of 3 “Domain Maintenance”

July 7, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, ... You have some nerve requesting to post Your event in our group when You've called some of our sisters, "fat bitches" and ...
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False Friends & Allies In Lies – Part 1of 3 “Domain Maintenance”

June 6, 2012 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I have watched for some time how people who have benefited from You have turned on You.  I am also dealing with someone ...
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Warning: This year’s stalker…

Special Note June 5, 2013 This note was written to assist a person who was dismissed from My Domain for (1) increasingly aggressive behavior, (2) over-stepping boundaries with My Guests ...
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Safety Tips for Dommes

Updated September 10, 2015 February 28, 2013 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I heard about the horrible tragedy of [NAME WITHHELD] and now I’m afraid.  How am I supposed to find ...
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Transcending Malicious Liars

This is a post of gratitude that I made on a (revolting) website when I discovered that My stalker has told the most ludicrous lies to people who are/were part ...
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How To Handle Lizard-Brain Thinking Attacks

December 29, 2012 The following is a Domina101™Lesson that I offered while being attacked by “gruesome” for creating a post in an online forum where they congregate en masse: Consider ...
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The Last Word

January 18, 2009 Dear Mistress Didi*, HOW do I get rid of this creep who won’t stop taunting me on [SITE NAME]?  What’s worse is a few of her friends ...
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Comfy Shoes

August 19, 2012 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, You're a shoe fetishist. What's the best way to make these gorgeous shoes comfortable to wear?? Thank You, Ouchie Feet ~~~~~~~~~ Dear Ouchie ...
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My Bitchy Times (Why I Gotta Be a BITCH)

September  7, 2012 Q: Dear Mistress Didi*, I truly enjoyed Your  Domina101™ Workshop and am looking forward to taking the next one.  I know You said that this is a ...
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Domina101™ Workshop Preparation

Below is the preparation document for My Domina101™ Workshop that I give to participants to obtain the greatest benefits from My Workshop. By answering the questions and perusing the reading, ...
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How To Handle Disruptors

June 18, 2012 Dear Mistress Didi*, You offered to share damage control and safety tips for my future events.  I am very honored and in need of them for sure!  ...
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The Toe-In-The-Water Retreat

March 12, 2012 Q: Dear Mistress Didi*, I really enjoyed Your lecture!  You told me to contact You for detailed notes, so would You please be so kind to send ...
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How To Stop A Stalker

UPDATE June 28, 2016 CallerSmart.com provides an excellent resource on cyberstalking and what to do if you are a victim, along with a very, cool app! CallerSmart helps you identify ...
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The 4 I’s (& Flopped Friendships)

August 5, 2011 Dear Mistress Didi*, [NOTE: Communication altered for privacy concerns.]  I am dismayed by a friendship that has gone sour.  It seems that everything was fine while I ...
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Owner vs. Fiancée

April 5, 2012 Dear Mistress Didi*, I have just started this new world of submissive and my Master has told me to tell my fiancée i'm owned by him. Is ...
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Tips To Remember Your Value

July 12, 2011 Dear Mistress Didi*, I have recently become collared by my Master and his ex is always making me see red.  I try very hard to ignore her ...
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Pity The Self-Loathing

August 31, 2011 Dear Mistress Didi*, I am disgusted with how badly people [behave in The Scene]!  I am fed up with the rudeness, the jealousy, the sabotage, and overall ...
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Outing or Protecting?

August 22, 2010 (updated November 13, 2011) Dear Mistress Didi*, Why is some guy on [social site] contacting me by direct message, claiming that You threw him out of Your ...
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Photography At Fetish Events

December 23, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi I am a fetish photographer and want to attend your next event to capture real life moments.  Are you one of these annoying ...
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Keeping Cool With Karma

July 2, 2010 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I have been practicing the techniques You gave us in the Domina101™ course and I must be doing something wrong.  I can't seem ...
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Forgiveness

December 1, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, Last night, I overheard You discussing forgiveness.  I only caught a bit of what You said, but it really helped me with a ...
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Fabulous & Guilty By Association

December 22, 2011 Dear Mistress Didi*, A while back, You addressed an issue with a “dominant” whom You helped get into The Scene and who abused Your kindness.  I recently ...
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Flip-Flopping Attempts to Top

December 31, 2010 Dear Mistress Didi*, I recently followed a conversation You had on Twitter with a loser who tried to bait You into an argument. I enjoyed that You ...
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Domme in Business

October 29, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, Should a woman who is in the Dominatrix business be domineering in her dealings with other business people or learn flexibility and understand ...
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Domme for Dollars

October 29, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I am a new slave and new to the scene.  What should I expect from a Mistress?  Some bring up money.  Is that ...
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Gruesomes

June 13, 2010 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I broke off a 3 month attempt at a relationship with a man who is a favorite of the females in [The Scene] ...
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The True Discipline

September 12, 2010 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, Every time i see my former Mistress with Her new sub, I am upset.  i don't know why, since Mistress and i parted ...
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Surprised That I’m A Giving Goddess?

July 23, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, It was really a pleasure to meet You last night.  After hearing rumors about You and [name omitted], I was very surprised that ...
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How To Deal With Relationship Gossip

June 30, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I recently broke up with someone in The Scene.  The problem is that where I live, the community is very small and everyone ...
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Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work?

August 7,  2011 This is an excerpt from My response to a post by the fabulous Jennifer Shelton at FemCentral.  I've modified it to speak directly to you. ***** Semantics.  ...
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MANNERS

March 4, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, i dread the holidays as Master's sisters come to dinner and completely disrupt His household.  Master has expressed His desire to address their ...
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The Dynamic of Fetish Fulfillment

September 21, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I saw the post by [name and site omitted] and appreciated how many people came to Your defense.  I think that [name omitted] ...
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Consider The Source

October 1, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, You witnessed an incident that should not have happened.  [name omitted] offended me and I didn't do anything to cause him to be ...
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Confusing Dominance for bullying

September 4, 2011 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I read Your post on [site omitted] and would like to say how much I appreciated the way you handled [name omitted]'s attempts ...
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Compassion & Tolerance

September 5, 2010 Q: Dear Mistress Didi, I am a Domme in a D/s marriage to My submissive husband. I try and try to tolerate the way my husband's sister ...
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